Theory #27 - Theory of "Highschool You"

Been taking some time recently to find out who i am.
watched other people as well and their personalities..
i think i see something clearly now. This also might be because of the latest grey's anatomy episode that kinda brought this subject up.

Theory of "Highschool You".

I don't think we ever really grow out of the personas that we were in highschool.

it makes sense. It does really. Especially for people that were in the same highschool for many years. Who we were in highschool never really changes. Without a doubt, once you graduate you can start a whole new persona. I'm not saying that you're doomed to be the (jock, geek, prom queen, dork, etc..) for the rest of your life. Everyone knows when you get to college you start fresh.
Some people are able to completely change themselves and be something better, others have more difficulty.
but what my theory here says, is that it's especially hard to get rid of your "highschool you" around the people you've actually gone to highschool with.
Unfortunately this is a theory i wish i didn't believe in. but it's so hard to deny that i just have to believe it.

I think it's because of the time you've had with those people in highschool at such an impressionable age that it's just hard to get rid of that in your mind.
School is everything for learning to speak a language, to your first friend, your first best friend, your first crush, your first boyfriend, your first heart break, hitting puberty, your first cigarrette, your first drink...etc..for some people many different
"firsts".
Everyone knows that highschool is a battlefield all on its own, how could you possibly deny that those years haven't affected your personality indefinitely. dealing with things like peer pressure, parental pressure, college pressure, friends pressure. it MAKES you.
shapes you into a form of person that can deal with all of that till that graduation day.
for some people school was harsh, difficult, something to overcome.
For others it was a breeze and deny that they fit into any kind of stereotype of character in a school. Those are usually good people, cause they can't see the cliques and the persona's. but they ARE there whether they wanna see their persona's or not.
Being a teacher i see it in every grade. The bullies, the pretty girls, the intelligent girls, the class clowns, the pretty boys, the
players, the nerdy girl, the boys that get along with girls as "friends" who are borderline gay. they're all there... every year,
just new faces. and believe me when i say that those persona's are gonna be very hard to get rid of in the future. Even after they have reinvented themselves in college, once they're back in that crowd, around the same people.. you're bound to fall back into the "highschool you"
the outcast will feel alienated and longing for acceptance.
the pretty boys will always expect the girls to flock to them.
the older brothers/sisters will always be the "older" brothers/sisters
(same with the younger)
the social butterfly will always flutter about being the good guy/girl
the snobs will be the snobs.
Heartbreakers will always break hearts
and fools will always be fools.

i think it's because you've spent years establishing what your personality is around a person, it's hard to get rid of it.

again i have to emphasize... this theory is that the "highschool you" is bound to show up when you're AROUND the people you went to highschool with.
You could be one person all year round, then go to a reunion of some sort and find that you're acting completely different.

i have proof.
or rather, backup to my theory. it's the same thing that happens with family. no matter how old you get.. you usually feel the same towards your family. your younger sister/brother will always be your baby brother/sister. someone you want to protect. or someone who constantly a pain or annoyance to you. big brothers will always be the big brother. your parents will always be someone you fear yet respect and love. even when they get old and can't lift a hand to stop you, you still
follow what they say. That goes all the way back from your childhood when they could physically stop you from doing something they didn't want you to do.
so if that's true for family, why can't it be true for other people you spend a good portion of your life with? at a very developmental age? at a place that you spend most of your days and your social life?


most people want to deny this, but it's true.

it's not IMPOSSIBLE to change the "highschool you". It's just very, VERY hard to do it. Especially when you're constantly around people from highschool who don't really realize that they need to know the new REAL you.

people who will still always treat as who you were years and years ago.

Even if you liked yourself in highschool, hang around people you knew back then, and be honest and see if your relationship towards that person or how you act around them has changed much. Whether it's looking down at them, up at them, or as equals. be honest with yourself.. don't just give yourself the answer that you WANT to hear.

Random #3

Can a night be wasted?

last night was a full moon.
clear skies.

and the breeze to show the beginning of winter.

cold, but not too cold.

just chilly enough for you to want someone's arms around you to keep you warm


"Love is like the wind. You can't see it but you can feel it"
- Mandy Moore (A Walk to Remember)