As everyone grows older they're all looking for someone to complete them. Someone they can spend the rest of their life with.
The most popular two ideas of "who to marry" has always fallen in my advice under two headings. You can either be lucky and be with the person you're in love with. Or you be with a someone who's your best friend.
The older generation are rather adamant about the concept of you being with someone who's your best friend, not necessarily in love with. I on the other hand am more of the "i gotta be crazy in love with the guy for it work" type. Lately though I've started to realize that maybe neither is truly the answer. My theory is that maybe what everyone needs is a combination of both.
I know you're probably thinking "DUH!" right about now, and if that's the case then you skip this theory, I just think it deserves some time spent thinking about it.
I think being in love is amazing. It's fun, it's invigorating, and most of all it's consuming. It consumes your thoughts, your minds, your time... everything. There's something so seductive about being consumed, that we ache for it.
If you were to imagine being in love as two people staring continuously at one another, you'd maybe get a clearer picture. They stare at each other and wrap themselves in this little bubble and are oblivious to the world spinning around them. As much as this is fun, everyone knows that this can also be dangerous. If you're too busy looking at your partner you're not gonna see where or who you're stepping on. You're also not gonna know what to do when the staring is over. It's very well known that love usually and eventually diminishes and fades, but I think that's just the case with THIS type of love. when you're IN LOVE with someone. eventually, you're really gonna want to look away from that face.
Antoine De Saint-Exupery, best known for writing "The Little Prince" writes "Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction".
I love this quote for the purpose that it explains and demonstrates a lot of what i see friendship as. I LOVE many of my friends, and in the end, those are the people i want as companions for the rest of my life. It's great to be in love and get lost in someone's eyes, neckline, and just melt in their hands, but you can't do that every day for the rest of your life. you want the people you can sit next to, and look outward together. I'm taking the quote quite literally for a moment... if you think about it, you want the one that you can sit in the cinema in the dark and whisper comments making fun about the movie. you want the ones that you can lie down next to in a park and watch the clouds together, you want the one you can sit next to for hours watching tv and actually enjoy your time together. It's SUPPOSED to be the one you can enjoy long drives together. you don't have to look at one another. Every second of every day does not have to be about each other.
It's about looking around at life together. Being able to see eye to eye on things without actually LOOKING at one another's eye (squint for cheesiness)
at the same time though, we all deserve to be in love with the person who's sharing this life with you. So as i said earlier. It's gotta be a combination of both. You can be two people staring at one another, getting in lost in one another, but you also need to make sure that this person you're staring it can also sit by you while you look out into the world at the same direction. Have coinciding goals and objectives in life, who sees life as you do. (this is the rather non-literal explanation of the quote, which is probably it's correct meaning)
Finding your soulmate doesn't mean that you're journey has ended and your life now will cease to exist cause you're reached the finish line. Finding your soul mate means you're no longer doing your life on your own anymore :)
