Theory #12 - Theory of Comforted Depression

You ever notice how A LOT of people are depressed?
If being depressed is such a horrible state, why are so many people in it?


Theory of Comforted Depression

Simply put, because we're humans, and we care... we're always gonna try to be there for one another.
Comfort each other in times of need... the problem that comes here is that people exploit this weakness in us humans to the max. Maybe they're not doing it on purpose.. but they DO do it.

If someone is going through a rough phase, they'll receive warm words, reassuring hugs and a lot of love from people around them. we call this "being supportive" Technically it's correct... Depressed people do need a lot and a lot of support. BUT.. .what REALLY is depression nowadays? just when you're sad? when's the depression over? yet the friends and family still give support. So, the "depressed" person will get warm hugs, boosts of confidence, love, have people try to boost their ego.... all these things.. because they're loved ones want them to feel better. But if they're receiving all these goodies, who WOULDN'T want to be depressed? Having unlimited access of kindness, sympathy and plain old HUGS could get any person into the depression Con game.

I'm not saying they're deliberately setting out to pretend to be depressed, but sometimes they might milk it for all it's worth because they're so hooked on the attention it brings.

Basically i'm saying the reason so many people are depressed, is because whether we like it or not, we've made it kinda comfortable.

So this theory is for all the people offering "support". you're in a tight situation. you need to be supportive, and you can't really put a time limit or measure on depression, but be careful and make sure that your friend/family is not just hooked on your goodies, cause then you'll have to remind them that depression isn't supposed to be pleasant.

Theory #11 - Theory of Inside/Outside

Here's a theory to help people understand other people.. and not expect too much or too little from them


Theory of Inside/Outside

I've come to the conclusion.. that people who are soft on the inside are hard on the outside and vice versa.
What i mean is.. if you find a guy or girl.. who look like they're SOO sensitive.. and cry or whine about every little thing.. believe it or not, i think those are the people that can survive emotionally in any situation life can dish out at them.
and the people who seem to be rock solid and don't even flinch when something comes their way.. they are WAAAAAY more sensitive than other people.

For people who are soft on the outside, it's always misconceived that these people are "weak". did it ever occur to anyone, that maybe the fact that they're always appear sensitive is because they express their emotions? everyone knows when you dont' express emotions it'll build up inside you and eventually you'll crack. so isn't it healthy for the people who are in touch with their emotions that the express them?
i'm not talking about the overly sensitive people that'll cry if someone gives them a bad name or something.. just.. people who get hurt quickly.. those guys.. i think they're more in tuned with their emotions, i dont' think it means they're "weak". infact.. BECAUSE they deal with their emotions, when a big bomb is dropped on them that's supposed to leave them in an emotional coma, they actually get outta there standing just fine.

as for the rock shelled people on the outside. we percieve them as so TOUGH and we dish out whatever meanness we have on them cause we think they can take it, but it must have occured to everyone that self-preservation is key. and that person probably knows how weak they are on the inside, so they build this HUGE tough shell.. to preserve themself. they probably work so hard on building that wall that they just never get around to hardening the insides a bit and in turn, psychologically make themselves even weaker and weaker by just working on the outside shell.

I could be wrong with this theory as well.. it could just be that when we see someone soft on the outside for example, and see how strong they turn out to be, we get shocked cause we didn't imagine it possible.
same as with tough people on the outside, the minute we see them a bit weak, we see the difference and think "oh my god.. i never knew they were so weak!"

so.. yeah.. i fully admit that i could be wrong about this.. but i'm putting this theory out there.

I also have to add that most people are nice mediums.. this is an OR situation. where you HAVE to be one or the other.. you could be a nice balance... and that's good for you :)