Lately I've been so sick and tired of people trying to explain and drill into my head what the world is like and what I have to accept, and to give in basically to the way things are or the way people are. Generally speaking that kind of position to have something forced on you is just frustrating.
Theory of Human Nature and Reality
The definition of reality is "The world or state of things as they actually exist, as opposed to an idealistic or notional idea of them."
This is a completely true statement. What people nowadays fail to realize is that you can CHANGE realities. not everything in the way the world is is FINAL. Reality is what we make of it and nobody seems to see that.
Reality is a general agreement that people have fallen back on when things get too difficult or frustrating in their lives. My theory is that people TOO often are using "reality" as a scapegoat to blame the shitty way the world is or the way people are, and use that word so that they don't have to try so hard in whatever challenge they're up against..
I know i'm contradicting myself because i did afterall say that reality is what WE make of it, but we're humans, and we're bound to screw up and make a mess of things. doesn't mean we can't fix some long standing "realities" that we have in the world and change it to something better.
Everyone just sees it as a basic rule and there's no use fighting it. The PROBLEM is that no one has the guts to be different or thinking differerntly with the chance of getting hurt so that maybe things can change.
If there's a harsh reality out there that you wish was different then do everything you can to change it. Even if it hurts you . I'm not talking about the nature of gravity or things like that. I'm talking about actual HUMAN nature. and not about the basic emotions like let's say if someone hurts you, you get sad. If someone loves you, you get happy.
those are basic human nature reactions that i don't think can be changed.
What i'm referring to are things that we can TRY to change. like what? Things that have an equal tug of good and bad groping at them.
It's very hard for me to narrow down exactly what i'm trying to explain. The way people are, the way they interact or respond to certain things is human nature yes. And when something bad comes around, people are quick to say "oh it's no use... it's reality".
So change it!
Ghandi said "Be the change you want to see in the world." I honestly believe that.
If you want people to be more forgiving.. then YOU start being more forgiving. even if they dont' deserve it!
if you want people to be more understanding, then YOU start being more understanding, give people the benefit of the doubt.
If you wish people were more tolerant of other people's quirks and faults, you try doing that too!
too many times i hear people say "people don't fogive and forget easily, or people don't trust people too quickly.. that's reality..
that's just the way people are."
Why???
why can't we live in a world where people give without reason?
why can't we live in a world where people's first thought of other people are good ones and not doubt?
where we can trust openly?
I'm not saying i don't understand WHY we use "reality" as a scapegoat. it's safer. so much safer to just succumb to it and not get hurt. Cause yes, trusting openly could get you stung quick. loving quickly could hurt. forgiving without reason could seem to make you vulnerable. But is everyone in the world really ALL such cowards??
If you ever want the whole world to start BEING better people and caring people, you need to set an example. In no way can you force people to change and be the way you want them to be. But YOU can be that way. Even if you fail in your efforts.
Even if nobody changes around you, you never know, your efforts might be remembered. You never know. Cause your effort might inspire or encourage someone else to change. And then YES I believe human nature can change. It can become a norm.
Where people actually look at people who DON'T trust quickly or DON'T forgive easily as the people going against human nature. For example, discrimination used to be a BIG thing everywhere. Blacks, women, other religion.. etc. and when something horrible or racist or sexist would occur, people would just say that's the reality of the situation.
but now look, after many movements and A LOT of time.. people are finally coming around. i'm not saying discrimination is completely non-existent. But it's nice to know that the majority of people don't judge people by their colors or sex anymore. We have as humans slightly changed. Because people grew to understand that the reality of the situation was wrong and unfair. Why can't it be the same for other human characteristics?
This is something good to hope for, and nothing bad ever came out of hoping for things to get better. I'm sick and tired of people sitting there saying that that's reality and that's the way things are and not trying to change it.
Succumbing to a reality that you're not satisfied with is just too easy... CHANGE REALITY. RISK getting hurt for something that could be great for EVERYONE. you never know who you might inspire.. and how that might catch on.
But please, don't be upset or discouraged if you don't succeed in changing the world and reality. Atleast you tried, which is more than i can say for most people.
