What is it about a woman with a cigarette that drives men wild?
Long gone are the days in movies when only the "bad girls" are the ones seen holding a cigarette. Although cigarettes are still used in movies to depict characters as having flaws and therefore "normal". This is a conversation about movies for a WHOLE other time.
But it IS true, even in arabic cinema you could always spot the bad girls from the ones that are smoking. Usually the "bad girls" are also the girls that aren't virgins, they're labeled and seen as "experienced", so that in turn makes a much larger appeal to men. So indirectly in movies you could say that a girl smoking a cig is a bad girl and in turn, not a virgin, therefore there's a CHANCE you might get lucky. But my theory here goes beyond that.
I think when a woman holds a cigarette JUST right, and I don't mean just in the movies, I mean in real life too.. that men find that attractive. And I think I know why.
Theory of the Allure of Smokin' Women
Everyone knows no matter how hard we try, we want what we can't have. Again this isn't 100% ALL cases, but this is especially true for when people are just starting to get to know each other. Unfortunately it's human nature and I've seen this in so many of my friends and my own experiences, that the minute a partner gives us TOO much attention we become less attracted to them. But should they ignore us and make us feel that we're not that important, that we're dispensable, we start chasing after them as if you finally realized that THEY'RE the one for you. It's the same vice versa. Give a partner you're whole undivided attention and love and they start to wander, but play the goddamn "hard to get" game and it's like REAL magic. All lessons from EVERY woman from different walks in life say "You have to play hard to get" I try to fight that rule but it seems that it's immortalized for a reason. Men LIKE to chase. they are hunters. it's a primal urge.
So what does a woman with a cig offer a hunter?
A challenge.
When a woman is fatal, a character so seductive she could drive a man insane, they refer to her as a femme fatale. This name becoming famous from the Film Noir genre back in the old days. You know the story, a woman meets an average joe, makes him fall in love with her, and then makes him think it was HIS idea to kill her bad bad husband. and then somehow she fucks him over or he ends up killing her? Yup, the Femme Fatale. these women, the most notorious of all women, are usually depicted with a cigarette firmly attached to their hands. WHY?
Is it the smoke that comes out of it? making a very seductive lazy atmosphere around the woman that does it? Could be.
Is it because it draws attention to her lips,.... could be too.
It may even be that old idea of "if she smokes, she's experienced and she KNOWS things ;) "
But what i really think it is, is because that the woman is not giving the man her full attention...... because she's busy smoking.
Think about it. The guy is sitting there, looking at her, and the women has this air about her where she's sorta listening to him, but what she's doing FIRST is smoking a cigarette, THEN she's listening to him.
She's not having a cigarette while listening to the man try to seduce her.
She's listening to the man try to seduce her while she's having a cigarette.
LOTS of people phrase it that way in their everyday lives. Guys AND girls.
"come and stand with me outside while i have a cigarette"
"Yeah you have time to order coffee while i have this cigarette"
It's the ultimate competition because a man can't WIN this challenge. If the female in question was diverting her attention to another man, one of the men in play here would win her attention in the end. But with a cigarette, which as smokers know are smoked for pleasure, the man can't compete. As he looks at this woman who he's trying to win her affection, she's busy having her own pleasure session wrapped in nicotine.
It is IMPOSSIBLE to give someone 100% of your attention if you're smoking. Maybe 95%, maybe even 99%.. but never 100%. Whenever she's smoking her cig, she's concentrating and enjoying something other than YOU.
So if he's talking to her, and she takes a drag of her cigarette and puffs it out, somewhere in her mind, even if it's just a little voice is saying "yeah.... that feels goooood". The man is practically watching the woman pleasure herself. It sounds dirty, but i think underneath it all it's just a matter of where the attention is going. The girl is doing her thing, enjoying her cigarette, you, the man are just there to entertain her between puffs.
In the end, she's playing hard to get.
I've heard lots of men tell me that they actually don't think a girl smoking is attractive at all. I think those exceptions are for 1 of 3 reasons. 1. the guy himself is not a smoker. 2. Social practices has affected his POV on these matters and made him somewhat sexist. 3. She looks cheap or trashy when she smokes.
I like to think that the most common one is 3. Simply because when I ask a guy why he doesn't like girls smoking, he says a girl looks trashy, cheap. Here it's to say that the cigarette makes her look cheap or trashy. What I think is that if the girl handles the little white object a little differently, then the guy would think differently too. She obviously doesn't know how to smoke it JUST right. She's smoking it cause she needs to. cause she needs the nicotine. Smoke it like you ENJOY it (don't be perverted!!!!), and you'll look completely different. I'm not telling girls that now you need to simulate an orgasm with every puff. Don't be retarded.
Some girls can do this naturally, they make the pleasure of smoking a cigerette equal if not more to flirting with a potential mate.
If you're not a smoker, don't start.
You'll taste better.
