Theory #22 - Theory of Bonds

For all the people trying so hard to push other people away.
and for all the people trying so hard to hold on to other people.

this is for you...


Theory of Bonds

I don't think the bond you have and share with someone is like a fruit.
Comparing a friendship or a bond to a fruit means it's starts small, with time and love it grows and ripens into something delicious but that means it either has to be consumed or by nature it'll rot and spoil.

so no... i don't think a bond is like a fruit.

i think it's like a precious stone.
like almost all precious stones, if not all.. they are at first undiscovered.. hidden in caves or in the earth.
there are many types, diamonds, rubies, opals, topaz... some more valuable than others... some more appreciated and recognized than others even.
and i mean all kinds of bonds. family, friends, lovers.. everything.

when two people meet the bond isn't always clear yet.. takes time to dig it up, to break off whatever sediments are on it.
with other people, the brightness and beauty shines right away.
this goes back to my theory of transparency.. how transparent you are with someone around you also effects how clear the gem is gonna be..

sometimes we could look at a rock and think it's not worth keeping.. other people see potential and look for that beauty within. the bond that could exist.
sometimes friends become like siblings after the test of time... after circumstances and trials.. this is much of how diamonds for example are made.. if you've ever seen what a diamond looks like between when it's found and when it's sold in a shop, you'd see the difference.. it just needed a little attention.. a little work, to make something beautiful.
sometimes we're disappointed.. trying to clear off all the rubble off what we thought would be precious but turns out not to be.
you could know someone for YEARS and both of you not bother clearing up the stone to see how great it could be.. but then after time and circumstance the real gem appears from under everything.
but the point of the matter is.. gems, are timeless.
if you found something beautiful... you can't change that. .. you can't change that connection or bond. you can try to cover it up, try to hide it... to get it out of your site, but it'll still be there... all you have to do is put the effort to dig it up again, to shine it again.. to work on it again and you'll have it once more.
you could also decide that the price to pay.. to have that gem, is just not worth it...

but no amount of TIME, or DISTANCE will diminish it's existence or it's beauty, no matter how you try.

you could forget about it, sure, out of sight, out of mind...... but don't go around pretending it doesn't exist or never did... and dont' try to change it. change it's color or it's character. it is what it is.. hard, beautiful and everlasting.

Theory #21 - Theory of our Animal Sides

you ever feel that you're acting somewhat outta character, yet.. still you? more like.. a you, but a new you or a different part of yourself?

I read a book a while ago called Half-Human and it offered an idea about something and i've been thinking about it ever more recently.

here goes.

Theory of our Animal Sides

We are HUMAN. yes we are, but I've heard that we're not really using our entire body or minds to the maximum. that we're only utilizing part of our potential.
In this book i read they explore the possibility that maybe the rest of us not SO human.

My theory is that this might be true in a spiritual sense.

We're always characterizing people by animals.. "cunning as a fox" "proud as a lion" "stealthy as a panther in the night"... you get my drift.

So in spirit, can't we really be partially animalistic?
i'm being a bit out-there i know. but why not?
different animals have different characteristics.. but they share some too, so that's not to see lions are ONLY proud for example. you could be a bunch of other stuff too.. and the combination of your characteristics and the one that sticks out the most is the animal that matches you. is basically the animal inside you.

I'm not the first person to come up with this! American Indians always had the idea of Spirit animals and one that suits you and guides you. so see i'm not completely crazy.

after doing some research about it.. some psychologists took it a bit too far, saying things like .. "fish living in the sea are associated with the unconscious mind and symbolize a deep mind." or "by meditating on the various qualities of reptiles and their mythical associations, it may be possible to access the reptilian aspects of the mind that correspond to the limbic system in the brain, which deals with sensory impressions, pleasure and pain. Likewise, by meditating on various mammals, a path is opened to the mammalian aspects of the human psychic corresponding to the thalamus and the hypothalamus in the brain associated with the emotions, a sense of community, and instinctual wisdom."

ok i didn't really GET all of those words, and i don't totally agree with what they're saying but it proves my point that animals are integrated into our psyche in some way. think of it basically this way. if you were an animal. what animal would you be? what is the characteristic in you that sticks out the most? you could in your life or in a day show different animal qualities, but i think generally in our lives overall.. there's one animal you act like more than the others.

Haven't you ever looked at someone and just imagined them as some type of animal? no i'm not talking about their physical characteristics... i mean, just something about the way they talk, look at you, or even how they assess situations. It could be what kind of parents you are, different animals react to parenthood in different ways. maybe it's what good of a home you have, building like a beaver? or like the quran implied that the house ruled by the woman is a house of a spider = web (females spiders are usually in control) people mesh into groups and situations in different ways and i think that part of our characteristics, especially when it comes to integrating with other people, is our animal sides coming out. that's how we know who is the king of the jungle in a group, who are the predators, who are the preys, the livestock.. or just plainly the
bottom of the food chain.

Whatever animal you are, it's primal, and therefore when that side of you appears it'll be very clear to the people around you and i think very seductive in it's simplicity. because you're letting out a very "basic" side of you.. with no inhibitions.

I say try to figure out what kind of animal you are and embrace it.