Theory #30 - Theory of Cake and Friendships

I think the best way to understand this is to imagine that each friendship you have is a kind of cake.
Each person you know is a cake of some sort.

cakes are made up of different ingredients just like people. taken on their own, the ingredients might be bland or distasteful... like flour, raw eggs, baking powder, cream cheese, even cocoa powder.
other ingredients might be great alone, like sugar or milk or water.

but that's the same with personalities.. if you could assign each ingredient in a cake to a characteristic of a person, you'd see that we are ALL cakes. you're free to assign what you like.. like..salt, bitterness, sweetness, family values, self worth (self raising flour :P).. etc..
one ingredient like sugar or chocolate could control the overall taste of a cake.. but that doesn't mean we don't need the other ingredients to make the overall person that we love. get it?
i mean.. yeah, sometimes there are characteristics in people that we just don't LIKE. things about them that we hate or that are distasteful, but if we take that ingredient on it's own we'll never enjoy the whole package.

There are also different types of cakes. Not everyone has to like ALL the cakes in existence, just like you don't have to get along with everyone in the world. everyone has different likes.
Tiramisu for example has ONE ingredient that some people may find distasteful, the bitterness of coffee that's in it.
others may love that cake for JUST that reason.

it's the same with all cakes! some people like carrot cakes, others like fruit cakes.
some people love a chocolate cake... but others think it's too heavy and chocolaty for their tastes. Some people don't like chocolate cakes at all (i know! crazy right?!)
Some people are sooooo sweet cause they have WAY too much sugar in them.. some people like eating that kind of cake.
some like good 'ol pound cake.. others find it too bland, they might not dislike it per say, but maybe they're looking for something a little more exciting in their lives. Maybe something with nuts in it.

some cakes we can eat every day and never get tired of.. just like our everyday friends. Other cakes, are only yummy to eat sometimes.. and too much of it makes you ill.
Just like some friends are better in small doses.

There's cakes that are rich in flavor, and others that aren't.

you HAVE to learn to take people as entire cakes, and not nit pick about an ingredient or two that you don't like. nobody likes raw eggs for example, or flour.
but if you find the taste of that one ingredient is too much, like coffee, then maybe that just isn't the cake for you.
and that's ok!! there's nothing wrong with that. don't get angry if you're a certain kind of cake and no one likes you.. everyone has different tastes!
and if you don't like a certain cake that doesn't make you a bad person, it just means you're human! relax!!

Cakes are just like books too.. you can't always judge them by their cover. some might have beautiful frosting but taste like shit on the inside. they could have all these beautiful flowers and shapes and on the inside they're bland and taste like normal bland cake. others are without decoration but seem to be the yummiest thing you've ever eaten (decoration A.K.A. your looks and how well you take care of yourself)

But if you know what you like, then good for you. don't go on wondering why a chocolate fudge cake doesn't taste like a black forest cake. Everyone is different.

Do you know what kind of cake you are? :)

Theory #29 - Theory of Procrastination

To procrastinate, by definition means "delay or postpone action; put off doing something"


I like to look at it in another way. i think there's a second half to that definition. Yes, it IS a delay of doing something. but it's also the solution the problem it causes.

let's say you're procrastinating doing something. let's call it A.

and you put it off and put it off... but then when there's something new you're supposed to do, let's call that B, you procrastinate doing that too.

in the event of procrastinating B.. you'll do A as an excuse to yourself saying "i should really get this done" just so you can put off doing B :)

we all do this. haven't you ever had something do, and then all of a sudden remembered all these other little errands should do first? "oh i should clean up my room" "i've been meaning to organize my music on the compuer" "i've been meaning to upload pics from my camera" ALL so we can avoid whatever pressing matter we are supposed to be doing at the moment.

so procrastination in my view isn't all that bad. It's just god's way of giving us the energy and boost that we need to all the other previous things that we've procrastinated as well :)


and if you're wondering, yes.. this e-mail is a result of procrastinating doing something else :)

Random #5

I wish i could sleep in the nighttime sky. The stars would wrap around me like a blanket and the moon would be my soft marshmellowy pillow.