Seeing as how i just wrote about kisses, i figure I'd follow it up right away with one about hugs.
Theory of Hugs
Who DOESN'T like hugs? i know there's a few people out there who don't enjoy hugs from anyone, but i wanna believe that everyone has at least one person they like to be hugged by. even if they're not the "hugging" type.
but what's so great about a hug? anyone can do it.. it's not sex, it's not kissing.. it's just a hug.
In my opinion, a hug, unlike the kiss, is a different kind of sharing. Kissing is sharing yourself with someone, talking to them, saying something.. giving them a part of you.
Hugging is just.. pure... giving.
it's warmth, it's unconditional, it's just a pure form of happy, positive energy. no matter which kind of hug it is.. even goodbye hugs are filled with love. you know the type i'm talking about, the kind you squeeze them so hard cause you're trying to squeeze SOMETHING outta them.. but what? In my opinion you're just shooting into them as much love as you can, for them to carry with them.. and the same goes when they hug you back.
I think it's amazing that god gives us all these simple little things that we can do that have such a strong effect. Lovers hugging each other, a friend comforting another through a hard time, someone chasing someone else's fears away with a hug.
Why is it we feel so warm and safe and happy in a hug?
You ever notice that when you're in a hug, it's like the whole world melted away? that hug fought all your fears away all the worries you have disappear for the slightest second and everything is warm and you believe everything's gonna be alright.
In my opinion, i think that hugs are the closest we can get to the feeling we had inside our mother's womb.
Let's take a step back for a minute and ask who is the closest human being to us? Considering that this is my "theories", we're just gonna follow my opinion when i say that the closest person to us should be our mothers.
We all have one, even Islam says just how highly we have to regard them, love and care for our mothers. they carried us after all in their wombs for 9 months, cared for us then, and even when we grew up, they love us unconditionally. But people say though it's because of the time we spent in the womb that we grow so attached to the mother. When you're a baby they say that you can identify your mother from the rhythm of her heart beat. it calms you cause it's what you're used to since the day you existed as a fetus.
There is also a certain position one might take when they're in a very distraught state of mind, looking for comfort.. it's called the fetal position, the one you take inside your mother's womb. There's even talks that you know a grown man is at his weakest, when he calls out for his mommy. why do i bring this up? to explain to you how that warmth inside the womb, and that bond created is SO strong and lasts with us our whole life.
could it be maybe, that when we hug people.. we're looking for that warmth?
Don't be stupid here, i'm not saying that when you hug your wife or husband you're wishing it was your mother. No...
what i'm saying is that when someone hugs you, you're feeling the safety and the warmth that you felt in your mother's belly. and THAT'S what makes a hug so strong and effective.
you ever notice how picky you are with who you choose to hug or not to? that's because i think subconsciously you KNOW how strong a hug is and what kind of bond it is, and your choice on where to use it is your own
mother's ofcourse will give their unconditional hugs and love to their children. We hug our friends and loved ones cause we have a strong bond with them and we want to give them love, without strings.. just a pure force of energy. other people, we'll be distant and give half-hearted hugs. that's still our choice. hugs, like kisses, are something that can't be faked. you can spot the duds a mile away.
I think god created us in the most beautiful way, and I'm glad he gave us these methods of sharing positive energy with one another, of making another human being's day so much better using something so simple. It's truly beautiful and a gift that we unfortunately also take for granted sometimes, and just don't understand.
Tuesday, December 19, 2006
Theory #15 - Theory of the Kiss
I'm pretty sure that in one episode of desperate housewives they kinda talked about this subject, ... but i just realized that after i started thinking about it these last couple of days.
it's about something so simple yet unrivaled when it comes to expressing emotions. I really don't think there's anything more powerful than a kiss.
Theory of the Kiss
Kisses are themselves a different language. They are THAT powerful that they don't need words. I'd like to think of the lips as the gateway to the person. When you kiss someone, on the lips you're forming a connection together. to combine yourselves to one another. you're trying to be whole. to share yourself.
What is it about a kiss?
Is it magic? Is there a touch of something heavenly from god that he personally puts at our disposal in our lips to share with other people? it has to be.. it's more powerful than anything i've ever seen. The amount of different emotions it stirs up, just by experiencing it, or seeing it is insane. it's everything, it's love, it's promises, it's lies too.. it's like the biggest proof someone could get to reassure their heart yet at the same time the biggest lie they might get in their life. I've seen people get weak in the knees and get dizzy from a kiss, i've seen people travel far distances just for a kiss, and i've seen people's hearts break.. just from a kiss..
And i'm talking about all kisses, there's something so personal and forceful about a kiss i really don't think it's that easy to deny. Yes sometimes a kiss might be meaningless, if you're not receiving it completely, like when someone kisses you on a cheek. But even the cheek kiss means something. some of the sweetest most meaningful kisses are the innocent ones on the cheek, forehead, or hand even. like a cute baby that you can't help but kiss repeatedly on the cheek. why? is it just cause those cheeks are just so yummy? or cause you can't help but smother that person with your love. that's what you're doing with your mouth, you're trying to share yourself with them.
People will have sex and still not be emotionally connected if they don't kiss. There is a BIG difference when you're intimate with someone and kiss them, and when you don't. It tells a lot of how much of yourself you're sharing. it tells just how much of yourself you're willing to give to them.
you can tell SO much from a kiss. it's true, kisses don't lie. EVER. unless you want them to lie..
fake kisses are easy to spot. you CANNOT fake the emotions in a kiss, unless the person you're kissing is that easily tricked. which in most cases there are. sometimes people just want to be kissed, they want to be lied to..
yes the kiss is THAT powerful that even though when it's a sham, it's still strong enough to do the job. to fullfill that longing someone might have inside them. it's still forceful enough that the recipient wouldn't care whether it's a lie or not.
Goodbye kisses are the worst. Heart wrenching even. all the sadness in the world could fit into that kiss.. where words aren't necessary, you could just hear it saying "i don't want to be away from you, stay, don't go, you're breaking my heart, don't do this... i'll love you forever"... that kiss itself could break your heart into billions of pieces.
The kisses among friends are sweet, and innocent..i'm not talking about those day to day "hi bye" kisses.. i'm talking about like when you're best friend is so sad and thinks the whole world hates them, and you place a very delicate kiss on their cheek. that means a lot. you might not think it doesn't. but it does. even the ones you give for example after seeing them after so long... the kiss in itself says just how much you missed them.
Then there's the "falling in love" kisses... where every moment is enjoyed.. every motion of the lips.....whether on the lips or any other part of the body. you're lips start talking this other language where they express to the other person's lips and skin just HOW much they love you and adore you. you could close your eyes and practically hear these make believe voices say "i love you, you're precious to me, you're my everything"... that's the language of kissing. kissing is an action that goes back and forth. just like speech. and how your lips respond to one another, that could be like talking.. right?
or the passionate kisses.. the ones so filled with hunger your lips won't have TIME to actually talk.. but again, close your eyes and listen and you'll hear it.. "i want you.. i need you.. i have to have you... NOW" The force especially in this kind of kiss is definitely unrivaled by any other form of expression, even words. there's so many other kisses, the "i'm sorry" kisses, "i love you forever", "i forgive you", "reassuring" kisses or even "motherly love"... .. why else do mothers kiss your booboo when you get hurt? isn't it in some kind of belief that a kiss has as little magic in it? that'll make it better? that's what a mother does right, she gives her love to take care of her children.
people today take kisses too lightly. degrading their value even. kisses are one of the most powerful tools that god has given us and other than abusing it, we've taken it for granted. you can tell anyone almost anything by kissing them...
believe me your lips will still be doing the talking, just not the way you think. next time someone kisses you, or you kiss them, no matter what kind of kiss it is.. partner, family or friend... listen closely and i PROMISE you you'll hear exactly what they're trying to tell you.
go share yourself with someone... right now, tell them something that you don't wanna say using words
it's about something so simple yet unrivaled when it comes to expressing emotions. I really don't think there's anything more powerful than a kiss.
Theory of the Kiss
Kisses are themselves a different language. They are THAT powerful that they don't need words. I'd like to think of the lips as the gateway to the person. When you kiss someone, on the lips you're forming a connection together. to combine yourselves to one another. you're trying to be whole. to share yourself.
What is it about a kiss?
Is it magic? Is there a touch of something heavenly from god that he personally puts at our disposal in our lips to share with other people? it has to be.. it's more powerful than anything i've ever seen. The amount of different emotions it stirs up, just by experiencing it, or seeing it is insane. it's everything, it's love, it's promises, it's lies too.. it's like the biggest proof someone could get to reassure their heart yet at the same time the biggest lie they might get in their life. I've seen people get weak in the knees and get dizzy from a kiss, i've seen people travel far distances just for a kiss, and i've seen people's hearts break.. just from a kiss..
And i'm talking about all kisses, there's something so personal and forceful about a kiss i really don't think it's that easy to deny. Yes sometimes a kiss might be meaningless, if you're not receiving it completely, like when someone kisses you on a cheek. But even the cheek kiss means something. some of the sweetest most meaningful kisses are the innocent ones on the cheek, forehead, or hand even. like a cute baby that you can't help but kiss repeatedly on the cheek. why? is it just cause those cheeks are just so yummy? or cause you can't help but smother that person with your love. that's what you're doing with your mouth, you're trying to share yourself with them.
People will have sex and still not be emotionally connected if they don't kiss. There is a BIG difference when you're intimate with someone and kiss them, and when you don't. It tells a lot of how much of yourself you're sharing. it tells just how much of yourself you're willing to give to them.
you can tell SO much from a kiss. it's true, kisses don't lie. EVER. unless you want them to lie..
fake kisses are easy to spot. you CANNOT fake the emotions in a kiss, unless the person you're kissing is that easily tricked. which in most cases there are. sometimes people just want to be kissed, they want to be lied to..
yes the kiss is THAT powerful that even though when it's a sham, it's still strong enough to do the job. to fullfill that longing someone might have inside them. it's still forceful enough that the recipient wouldn't care whether it's a lie or not.
Goodbye kisses are the worst. Heart wrenching even. all the sadness in the world could fit into that kiss.. where words aren't necessary, you could just hear it saying "i don't want to be away from you, stay, don't go, you're breaking my heart, don't do this... i'll love you forever"... that kiss itself could break your heart into billions of pieces.
The kisses among friends are sweet, and innocent..i'm not talking about those day to day "hi bye" kisses.. i'm talking about like when you're best friend is so sad and thinks the whole world hates them, and you place a very delicate kiss on their cheek. that means a lot. you might not think it doesn't. but it does. even the ones you give for example after seeing them after so long... the kiss in itself says just how much you missed them.
Then there's the "falling in love" kisses... where every moment is enjoyed.. every motion of the lips.....whether on the lips or any other part of the body. you're lips start talking this other language where they express to the other person's lips and skin just HOW much they love you and adore you. you could close your eyes and practically hear these make believe voices say "i love you, you're precious to me, you're my everything"... that's the language of kissing. kissing is an action that goes back and forth. just like speech. and how your lips respond to one another, that could be like talking.. right?
or the passionate kisses.. the ones so filled with hunger your lips won't have TIME to actually talk.. but again, close your eyes and listen and you'll hear it.. "i want you.. i need you.. i have to have you... NOW" The force especially in this kind of kiss is definitely unrivaled by any other form of expression, even words. there's so many other kisses, the "i'm sorry" kisses, "i love you forever", "i forgive you", "reassuring" kisses or even "motherly love"... .. why else do mothers kiss your booboo when you get hurt? isn't it in some kind of belief that a kiss has as little magic in it? that'll make it better? that's what a mother does right, she gives her love to take care of her children.
people today take kisses too lightly. degrading their value even. kisses are one of the most powerful tools that god has given us and other than abusing it, we've taken it for granted. you can tell anyone almost anything by kissing them...
believe me your lips will still be doing the talking, just not the way you think. next time someone kisses you, or you kiss them, no matter what kind of kiss it is.. partner, family or friend... listen closely and i PROMISE you you'll hear exactly what they're trying to tell you.
go share yourself with someone... right now, tell them something that you don't wanna say using words
Monday, December 4, 2006
Theory #14 - Theory of Dance
I've heard many times people compare the way people dance, to the way they are in bed. I thought that was interesting enough for me to take a further look in to it and actually THINK about it. this is what i came up with.
I probably need to think about this more to get this theory completely clear, but i hope i didn't confuse anyone. it's a bit messy.
Theory of Dance
The way you are when you dance is how you are in life... with your partner or potential partner especially. Now i'm not restricting this simply to the bedroom, although that is part of it, but i also mean in your demeanor. The real you. The part of you that usually no one sees or knows about except your partner.
If you could just for a moment imagine music as a person. Let's USE our imaginations here.
couldn't it maybe kinda be possible that different types of music also reflects different personalities? and brings it out in you?
We all like different kinds of music, some more than others. And our body moves to that music accordingly. Go to any club or dance and see the different ways people are dancing to the same song. some are confident and sexy, others are timid and shy, some are just awkward and keep looking around to who's looking. other's are just in their own world, some like to do a group thing and do what everyone else is doing.
If your partner was Rock music, how you react to it, how your body is.. not necessarily how WELL you dance, but how much you really enjoy the music is who you REALLY are. the way you take in the music and let it control you is in my opinion linked to you psychologically and how you react with someone.
Same with all other types of music. I think dance is truly the time of self-expression, and everyone expresses it better in different ways. some with rock, some with rnb, some with house music. sometimes you'll be stiff, sometimes you'll have your hands up in the air not giving a shit what anyone is looking at. My theory is basically that that person your turn into when you dance, is what you're like in your most PERSONAL level with your partner.
That's the REAL you.
whether you're fun, or conservative, or serious, or very professional, or sexy, or hip with the latest moves.. ... that's the true essence of YOU.
I dont' wanna exaggerate but if i had to take a stab at it.. it would be something like..
if you were very professional while you dance, means you take something seriously, and wanna do it right.
when you dance:
if you're conservative.. means you wanna have fun, but not TOO much.
If you're serious when you dance.. that probably means you have a no nonsense attitude about a lot of things in life too.
If you're sexy... that means you have a very physical attitude in life.
if you're hip, that means you're always into the latest and in tune with the NOW.
if you're fun, that means you don't care about anyone's opinion and you wanna make the most outta life.
if you're in your own world, you probably are the kind of person that looks for someone that makes them feel like they're escaping reality.
if you're eyes are always on your dance partner, you're very into pleasing or making contact with a partner
If you're self-concious when you dance, well.. that's kinda obvious. Insecure.
If you simply DON'T dance, you probably don't take too many risks in your life, or rather you choose not to INDULGE yourself in life or getting too personal.
then again, this is my opinion.
some people are a combination, and to different musics. different music brings out different parts in people.. just like other people do... for example the company you keep, and the part of your personality that comes out when with different people.
yes i have to go back to the fact about how you'd be in bed. A lot of what goes on in the bedroom is how your body responds to the other person, and how they respond to you. Kinda like how you respond to certain music and beats and how receptive you are. Music goes in to you, takes over you.. and your body responds...like someone could. so yes, in THIS case, i woudl say the better dancer you are, no matter what kind of song, as long as you get someone who matches you, you'll
be great together in bed.
I bet you'll be looking quite differently at people in the club now huh?
I probably need to think about this more to get this theory completely clear, but i hope i didn't confuse anyone. it's a bit messy.
Theory of Dance
The way you are when you dance is how you are in life... with your partner or potential partner especially. Now i'm not restricting this simply to the bedroom, although that is part of it, but i also mean in your demeanor. The real you. The part of you that usually no one sees or knows about except your partner.
If you could just for a moment imagine music as a person. Let's USE our imaginations here.
couldn't it maybe kinda be possible that different types of music also reflects different personalities? and brings it out in you?
We all like different kinds of music, some more than others. And our body moves to that music accordingly. Go to any club or dance and see the different ways people are dancing to the same song. some are confident and sexy, others are timid and shy, some are just awkward and keep looking around to who's looking. other's are just in their own world, some like to do a group thing and do what everyone else is doing.
If your partner was Rock music, how you react to it, how your body is.. not necessarily how WELL you dance, but how much you really enjoy the music is who you REALLY are. the way you take in the music and let it control you is in my opinion linked to you psychologically and how you react with someone.
Same with all other types of music. I think dance is truly the time of self-expression, and everyone expresses it better in different ways. some with rock, some with rnb, some with house music. sometimes you'll be stiff, sometimes you'll have your hands up in the air not giving a shit what anyone is looking at. My theory is basically that that person your turn into when you dance, is what you're like in your most PERSONAL level with your partner.
That's the REAL you.
whether you're fun, or conservative, or serious, or very professional, or sexy, or hip with the latest moves.. ... that's the true essence of YOU.
I dont' wanna exaggerate but if i had to take a stab at it.. it would be something like..
if you were very professional while you dance, means you take something seriously, and wanna do it right.
when you dance:
if you're conservative.. means you wanna have fun, but not TOO much.
If you're serious when you dance.. that probably means you have a no nonsense attitude about a lot of things in life too.
If you're sexy... that means you have a very physical attitude in life.
if you're hip, that means you're always into the latest and in tune with the NOW.
if you're fun, that means you don't care about anyone's opinion and you wanna make the most outta life.
if you're in your own world, you probably are the kind of person that looks for someone that makes them feel like they're escaping reality.
if you're eyes are always on your dance partner, you're very into pleasing or making contact with a partner
If you're self-concious when you dance, well.. that's kinda obvious. Insecure.
If you simply DON'T dance, you probably don't take too many risks in your life, or rather you choose not to INDULGE yourself in life or getting too personal.
then again, this is my opinion.
some people are a combination, and to different musics. different music brings out different parts in people.. just like other people do... for example the company you keep, and the part of your personality that comes out when with different people.
yes i have to go back to the fact about how you'd be in bed. A lot of what goes on in the bedroom is how your body responds to the other person, and how they respond to you. Kinda like how you respond to certain music and beats and how receptive you are. Music goes in to you, takes over you.. and your body responds...like someone could. so yes, in THIS case, i woudl say the better dancer you are, no matter what kind of song, as long as you get someone who matches you, you'll
be great together in bed.
I bet you'll be looking quite differently at people in the club now huh?
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