Theory #3 - Theory of Instincts

this one isn't exactly gonna be uplifting...

sigh.. i know i'm gonna get a lot of people disagreeing with me on this one and arguing with me

so let me save you the effort.. this is MY opinion.. i'm just trying to help you, i'm not forcing this idea on you.


Theory of Instincts

In relationships, friends or boy/girl friends.. you always have to use your instincts. we live in world where there are so many liars out there.. fake people, frauds.. it's literally a jungle. fortunately god gave us our instincts, but unfortunately no one uses them enough.

If you feel you're being jerked around by someone, that someone's messing with you. they probably are. don't second guess yourself, you are.. and don't question the queasiness in your stomach or the weight on your chest. I'm not saying that the second you feel someone's lying or playing you that you act on it... instincts have been known to fuck up.. but in the course of the relationship, if the feeling continues, you're being taken for a schmuck. and that's a safe bet.

I'm not being harsh, truth is.. when someone's being honest with you, you never doubt them.. it's so clear and transparent in their actions and intentions. if someone is a jerk.. but is honest about it.. you can TELL.. which actually, some people like me don't mind.
the problem comes with friends, who start playing with you, who keep their true intentions hidden... and we keep giving them the benefit of the doubt, truth is.. we're idiots.
if your'e in a situation that everyone says that someone is playing you, but you don't feel it.. you don't have that queasiness.. have faith in your instincts. i'm not saying be blind, maybe investigate it further.. dont' just give up believing in that person.
but also, vice versa, girls, if you feel a guy is playing you, trying to manipulate you somehow.. he probably is. dont' listen to his iron clad excuses.. that's child's play to them. and boys, if a girl is driving you nuts, and you just can't figure her out and she's getting you confused, she's probably doing it on purpose. and wrapping you around her finger is easy for her.

there IS the rare occasion that it's just a misunderstanding.. if that's the case, then you can easily confront each other and
everything will easily be cleared up......but otherwise.. if you confront each other, and you're still left confused.. or being uneasy.. or just unconvinced.. then your'e being taken for a schmuck if your instincts are wrong, dont' worry.. nothing is forever.. if that friend or boy/girl friend really cares about you.. they'll fight to hang on to you. and that would be enough to remove your uneasiness...

honesty is so amazing.. is so clear.. crystal, i'm not exaggerating! when you hear it from someone.. you'll never doubt it. i know some people say that things could cloud your judgement.. but instinct is not in your brain. it's in your gut.. and THAT can't be clouded. (please dont' reply to me saying .. "your brain controls your gut.. blah blah blah"... stick with my metaphor)

it's a natural tendency to defend ourselves.. ... your body knows best.

i say.. follow your instincts... dont' be fools