Theory #5 - Theory of Goodbyes

ok... i'm a bit down today.
So this theory is very sentimental.. and yes, corny..
if you're just in the mood to laugh at me, then don't bother reading it.


Theory of Goodbyes

Why are goodbyes so sad? i mean, technically it's just someone being at a distance from someone else.

I don't think you could possibly understand this unless you're the kind of person who travels a lot back and forth to see loved ones, family friends and so forth.

ok.. here's what i wanna talk about. the act of crying, when you're leaving, or someone's leaving. why do we do it?

yeah ok, cause it's sad.. i get it.. but it's not like we didn't KNOW we were gonna say goodbye. why didn't you cry earlier? why did the crying happen during that last moment, when you're saying goodbye? why do you suddenly get choked up and can't even say the words?

i like to think that when you're with someone in a country, your souls say hello to each other. kinda make a bond. hell, even if you're on the phone together or talking face to face, i like to think your souls are locked with each other exchanging info and stuff and feelings. what i imagine happening, is when you say goodbye, your souls are being yanked from each other. sounds corny i know.. but that's what i see in my head. and tears are just the product of that.

kinda like, when you cut something, you're technically just opening someone's skin and flesh, the result that comes out of it is blood. this is the same, your souls are being pulled harshly away from each other, and if you love each other, they're holding on tighter.. and when that's YANKED out, tears are the by product.

some people may argue that even though they love someone, that they don't cry when they say goodbye
ok, good for you. Everyone's different. Some people bleed more, some people bleed less. whatever. if you can control your emotions well enough, you might have the urge inside you to cry, but you don't actually cry.

also, especially with first goodbyes, our souls are like babies. When babies are young, they start screaming like crazy when you leave the room, cause they actually think that if they can't see you, that you're gone forever.
only later do they start understanding that just cause you can't see them, doesn't mean they're gone (that's why you should play pee-ka-boo with kids)

i think souls turn into babies when it comes to goodbyes.. the tears are there cause they think they'll never see each other again. but the more often you say bye over time, it gets used to it. and you understand more and more the fact that you WILL see the people you care about again.

some people get used to it more than others.

i hate goodbyes.